We all make decisions throughout our life – some are automatic, some are well-thought-out and some are outright blunders. The last ones are based on inchoate thinking and emotions that could be the result of over-stress.
WE ALL make decisions throughout our life – some are automatic, some are well-thought-out and some are outright blunders. The last ones are based on inchoate thinking and emotions that could be the result of over-stress. One wrong decision can change the course of life forever. As one Urdu poet said:
Bus ek qadam utha tha ghalat rah-e-shouq men.
Manzil tamam umr mujhe dhoondti rahee.
Marriage is the biggest turning point in a person’s life. Partners are supposed to treat each other with respect and trust. They must support one another and agree on goals together. They must show equal commitment to the relationship and nurture it to the best of their abilities. Consider the story of Anuradha Bali who fell into the trap set by a wily married politician; the enchantress in her was trapped in an illusion, the lawyer floundered, wisdom failed and common sense became the first casualty. She failed to learn anything from her previous failed marriage. She allowed herself to be exploited and destroyed by the greedy impostor – the product of a clan of political-seasoned opportunists.
Anyone else would have easily turned into a dismal, broken spirit and a pulverised wreck after all she had undergone. She had made a formidable mistake. However in the aftermath of the traumatic relationship she learned to accept the situation and she attempted to correct the course as best as she could. She made every effort to salvage the flotsam of her floundered life and in the process lost almost everything.
What remained with her was her integrity of character and her faith. It is difficult for me to believe that it was her love and respect for Islam that compelled her to become a Muslim. From Sunil Dutt-Nargis to Dharmedra-Hema there is a never ending stream of couples who used the tenets of Islam for their dubious and ulterior motives and of course the case of Chandra Mohan-Anuradha Bali is the most recent.
However, it is to her credit that once she entered to the fold of Islam, she remained loyal and remained faithful to the new faith she had acquired. In an interview with Divya, A she said, “After converting to Islam and assuming my present name, I have adopted its tenets from the core of my heart and would remain Fiza till death.”
Religion is a very personal matter. It is the equation between the individual and God. Whatever faith we follow, most of us are religious people and it is our duty not to make a mockery of our faith. Chandra Mohan brought disgrace to both Hinduism and Islam. Fiza made some interesting comments under duress but it is worth reflecting on her inherited values: “He (the CM) has gone insane. He seems to be changing his religion as often as he changes his wives. All of the members of his family need psychiatric counselling so that they do not play with women’s lives.”
Chandra Mohan had finally gone back to his original Bishnoi fold. We don’t know what he would do if he were to encounter the next beautiful damsel to walk his way. Meanwhile, Fiza, out of the furnace of her life’s tribulations, is trying hard to reassemble the remaining shattered pieces of her life. She appears to be wise, serene, cool and still vibrant. She had not surrendered or accepted defeat.
Life goes on. She ended her interview with the following words:
“It’s not been a normal life and I have now left it to God to take care of things. I don’t even wish to find the logic of things in what He does to me. I trust Him and the logic of things will unfold in future if I can’t understand it now.” We all make mistakes – some repairable, some fatal. Let us not laugh at her folly. She is a wise and strong woman who fell prey to a man’s evil designs. She remains an intelligent and sharp lawyer – a beautiful personality indeed. She has the dignity to accept her mistakes. She can still make amends and go the glorious path of life. We wish you all the best in life Fiza.