Winners and the Losers

It is a world of survival of the fittest. I know the fact that achievers shape this world and people like me get benefit of their hard work, devotion, sacrifices and abilities. They lead us and we follow them.

But here the buck stops. We all are different. Those who follow are not necessarily absolutely devoid of the traits the successful people possesses. Many of the underachievers simply give up either half way or at that most crucial time when they were few steps to success. The difference of the winner and a loser in any race is hardly a few yards. An Upper Division Clerk and a District Magistrate had got a difference of a few marks when they both had appeared in the IAS competition.

Keep aside the spin and hyperbole of beauty and brains and beneath the surface of the skin deep glittering is nothing but the body and face that God has gifted. They were lucky to have families which supported them to reach the palatial houses where the beauty pageants are organized. What Kamala could have done with her sallow complexion when her parents had sold her to a brothel keeper of Kamehti Pura in her childhood in the name of Deva Seva? There has always been a thin line between success and failure in life. The banyan tree is flouting its air-roots, shiny green leaves and offering its cozy shade today because no cow or goat extirpated its sapling and used it as fodder few decades or hundreds of years before. You can give credit of the strong growth to the grit of the mother seed also for the giant tree. But could you deny that no destructive hurricane came its way in its earlier development and it got the proper support of water and air when needed. While we must admire, respect and give credit to those who have shown earth shaking results we shouldn’t insult the brilliance of ordinary man. Given the right set of positive circumstances and many of us could have become an Einstein, Tagore or Dheeru Bhai.

Most of us are always curious to know what kind of personalities these successful people have or how intelligent they are; what special talents they possess. I’ve been fortunate to know and learn closely many of the these successful men. We can’t ignore about our backyard where the more dishonest, the more cunning, depraved and unprincipled you are the more successful you are. One day I asked a successful baker how he reached the top of the ladder. “On the heads of broken eggs…” was his candid and honest answer. The truth was, as he stated, that when rest of the bakers were buying fresh eggs from poultries for making the cakes, he used to buy the reject, substandard and broken eggs. While other made a profit of 15 % he made 40 %. Now he has got HACCP and ISO’s certificates and all that you can afford after success. He is a man of honesty, integrity and principles now.

Kapoors, Khans or Johars may be a story of two or three generations but we have our Gandhis, Jindals, pilots, Yadavs, Nidihis and Abdullahs who would be there in the vanguard of the nation in coming generations, for better or the worst, and would keep reminding us that accident of birth is the best trait. Rich people are too powerful and dangerous and I’m afraid of my life to talk about their antecedents.

To be safe, let us learn about one – Mozart, a child prodigy who had began writing music at the age of 6. He was not after all that glorious in the nascent stage of his career. Michel Howe, the well know psychologist describes his achievements in his book “Genius Explained” as follows:

“By the standard of mature composers, Mozart’s early works are not outstanding. The earliest pieces were all probably written down by his father, and perhaps improved in process. Many of the Wolfgang’s childhood compositions, such as the first seven of his concertos for piano and orchestra, are largely works of other composers. Of those concertos that only contain music original to Mozart, the earliest that is now regarded as a masterwork (No. 9, K. 271) was not composed until he was 21: by that time Mozart had already been composing concertos for ten years.

“Who log jinhoon ney khoon dekar gulshan ko ye zeenat bakshi hai ; Do char se duniya waqif hai, gumnam na jane kine hain.” The garden’s beauty and color owe to the blood of several keepers . Only a few of them are exposed, rest are unknown.

I’m a late bloomer and under-achiever in almost all walks of my life. I know I’m neither blessed with a super-intelligent brain nor I’ve the great talents to win friends and influence. However, with all my constrains, restrains, pitfalls and shortcomings God has gifted me with Self Respect and a resilience to accept the situations I can’t change. I set my goals and try my best to achieve them. There are times when I flop miserably and there are times when I make a lukewarm success. There are also moments – these are few when I come off with flying colors. One great attribute that helped me is that nothing throws me out of gear. As one Urdu poet has said: “Manzil miley, miley na miley, is ka gham naheen: Manzil ki justuju me mera caravan to hai. ” Achieving or losing doesn’t worry me. I’m satisfied that my struggle is on. Struggle is always more pleasant than reaching the destination. Once you reach at the top, there is nothing left to look up. You walk on flat plateau or you look down the valleys you have climbed up.

But we can’t generalize this example. There are child prodigies and there are plenty who reach the top with hard, honest and sincere efforts. Success is also based on individual merit. These people are judged on their own performance and ability.

Let us remember :
“In time of difficulties, we must not lose sight of our achievements.” Mao Tse-Tung
“Life has an incredible way of working out the details of our difficulties when we choose not to give up.” Josh Hinds
“Life affords no higher pleasure than that of surmounting difficulties, passing from one step of success to another, forming new wishes and seeing them gratified.” Samuel Johnson.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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What makes us poor?

The hapless inhabitants of Kondli had no water supply for a week. So they complained. And when nothing happened they protested and took the law in their own hands. The protesters blocked the road connecting Kondli and Kalyanpuri at about 8.15am.

CHARLES DICKENS described Europe of the period around 1789 in ‘The Tale Of Two Cities’: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way”. In short, the period was so far like the present period.

I am describing ‘Kondli’ a Dharawi of Delhi which most probably lies in NCR region. The time is 21st century and India is a sovereign, socialist, secular republic. Someone has said that there are people who never seem to break free of poverty. Neither do their children, nor their grandchildren and their parents were poverty struck as well. They are born to poverty and it seems like it is their heritage, one that they can never shed; a curse unto seven generations. The problem of the underclass is an old one. It is a death spiral which seems impossible to escape.

The hapless inhabitants of Kondli had no water supply for a week. So they complained. And when nothing happened they protested and took the law in their own hands. The protesters blocked the road connecting Kondli and Kalyanpuri at about 8.15am. They soon started pelting the police as well as passing vehicles with stones.

“Initially, there were about 150 protesters, but once they became violent, others joined in, leading to a riot-like situation. Though additional forces were called in from nearby, the protesters refused to budge and kept throwing stones at the police. After some of our men were injured, we had to resort to a lathi-charge,” a police officer said.

However, the locals claimed they were protesting peacefully, and it was the police who started the violence. “We were sitting on dharna demanding water as there has been no supply for around ten days. But the police started cane-charging us,” said Vinod Gautam, a local resident.

Locals complained that the police picked up innocent local residents for the protests. “They took away my sons saying they had assaulted policemen, but they were not at fault,” said one Krishna Devi. “They have detained innocent people instead of catching the culprits,” said Munni Khatoon. There is nothing new in this story.

In our beloved motherland we have the people who are the richest in the world and we have the swimming pools in Star Hotel and on the ninth floor of palatial houses. We have the shopping malls where the poor can’t dare to step in though they are not brutally told so – they know they don’t belong there.

Every tragedy may not have an iota of comedy in it but some often have. A tricycle cart of banana was looted by the protestors on the spot. A poor looted the poor. Does it go against common sense or logic? Unanimous verdict of civilised society was. It is an act of vandalism goondagardi. Poor have no sense of values. They have no principles and they are cheaters they deserve it. If only they had more discipline, if only they didn’t marry young, or do drugs, or have so many children, if only they stayed in school and got a better education their lot could have been better. If only they did things the way the middle and upper classes did, if only, well, they wouldn’t be poor.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Shape it or ship out ! No Sir !

It is a world of survival of the fittest. I know the fact that achievers shape this world and people like me get benefit of their hard work, devotion, sacrifices and abilities. They lead us and we follow them.

It is a world of survival of the fittest. I know the fact that achievers shape this world and people like me get benefit of their hard work, devotion, sacrifices and abilities. They lead us and we follow them.

But here the buck stops. We all are different. Those who follow are not necessarily absolutely devoid of the traits the successful people possesses. Many of the underachievers simply give up either half way or at that most crucial time when they were few steps to success. The difference of the winner and a loser in any race is hardly a few yards. An Upper Division Clerk and a District Magistrate had got a difference of a few marks when they both had appeared in the IAS competition.

Keep aside the spin and hyperbole of beauty and brains and beneath the surface of the skin deep glittering is nothing but the body and face that God has gifted. They were lucky to have families which supported them to reach the palatial houses where the beauty pageants are organized. What Kamala could have done with her sallow complexion when her parents had sold her to a brothel keeper of Kamehti Pura in her childhood in the name of Deva Seva? There has always been a thin line between success and failure in life. The banyan tree is flouting its air-roots, shiny green leaves and offering its cozy shade today because no cow or goat extirpated its sapling and used it as fodder few decades or hundreds of years before. You can give credit of the strong growth to the grit of the mother seed also for the giant tree. But could you deny that no destructive hurricane came its way in its earlier development and it got the proper support of water and air when needed. While we must admire, respect and give credit to those who have shown earth shaking results we shouldn’t insult the brilliance of ordinary man. Given the right set of positive circumstances and many of us could have become an Einstein, Tagore or Dheeru Bhai.

Most of us are always curious to know what kind of personalities these successful people have or how intelligent they are; what special talents they possess. I’ve been fortunate to know and learn closely many of the these successful men. We can’t ignore about our backyard where the more dishonest, the more cunning, depraved and unprincipled you are the more successful you are. One day I asked a successful baker how he reached the top of the ladder. “On the heads of broken eggs…” was his candid and honest answer. The truth was, as he stated, that when rest of the bakers were buying fresh eggs from poultries for making the cakes, he used to buy the reject, substandard and broken eggs. While other made a profit of 15 % he made 40 %. Now he has got HACCP and ISO’s certificates and all that you can afford after success. He is a man of honesty, integrity and principles now.

Kapoors, Khans or Johars may be a story of two or three generations but we have our Gandhis, Jindals, pilots, Yadavs, Nidihis and Abdullahs who would be there in the vanguard of the nation in coming generations, for better or the worst, and would keep reminding us that accident of birth is the best trait. Rich people are too powerful and dangerous and I’m afraid of my life to talk about their antecedents.

To be safe, let us learn about one – Mozart, a child prodigy who had began writing music at the age of 6. He was not after all that glorious in the nascent stage of his career. Michel Howe, the well know psychologist describes his achievements in his book “Genius Explained” as follows:
“By the standard of mature composers, Mozart’s early works are not outstanding. The earliest pieces were all probably written down by his father, and perhaps improved in process. Many of the Wolfgang’s childhood compositions, such as the first seven of his concertos for piano and orchestra, are largely works of other composers. Of those concertos that only contain music original to Mozart, the earliest that is now regarded as a masterwork (No. 9, K. 271) was not composed until he was 21: by that time Mozart had already been composing concertos for ten years.

“Who log jinhoon ney khoon dekar gulshan ko ye zeenat bakshi hai ; Do char se duniya waqif hai, gumnam na jane kine hain.” The garden’s beauty and color owe to the blood of several keepers . Only a few of them are exposed, rest are unknown.

I’m a late bloomer and under-achiever in almost all walks of my life. I know I’m neither blessed with a super-intelligent brain nor I’ve the great talents to win friends and influence. However, with all my constrains, restrains, pitfalls and shortcomings God has gifted me with Self Respect and a resilience to accept the situations I can’t change. I set my goals and try my best to achieve them.

There are times when I flop miserably and there are times when I make a lukewarm success. There are also moments – these are few when I come off with flying colors. One great attribute that helped me is that nothing throws me out of gear. As one Urdu poet has said: “Manzil miley, miley na miley, is ka gham naheen: Manzil ki justuju me mera caravan to hai.” Achieving or losing doesn’t worry me. I’m satisfied that my struggle is on. Struggle is always more pleasant than reaching the destination. Once you reach at the top, there is nothing left to look up. You walk on flat plateau or you look down the valleys you have climbed up.

But we can’t generalize this example. There are child prodigies and there are plenty who reach the top with hard, honest and sincere efforts. Success is also based on individual merit. These people are judged on their own performance and ability.

Let us remember :
“In time of difficulties, we must not lose sight of our achievements.” Mao Tse-Tung
“Life has an incredible way of working out the details of our difficulties when we choose not to give up.” Josh Hinds
“Life affords no higher pleasure than that of surmounting difficulties, passing from one step of success to another, forming new wishes and seeing them gratified.” Samuel Johnson.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Narco tests: The Rights and Wrongs

We have seen the futility of these test made in Arushi Murder Case. According to some experts – persons who have been administered these chemicals can often repeat the interrogators’ words and cues or freely fantasize.

On May 6 th May, 2010 in an article published on Merinews, citizen journalist Subhash Chandra has written as following:

Gautam Swarup of “Nalsar University of Hyderabad” argues In his paper : “The right against Self Incrimination when it applies is an ABSOLUTE RIGHT and is subject to no exception.”

A very fine line has to be drawn to limit the power of State in attempting to acquire such incriminating confessions and prevent abuse of its undisputed power in course of the same.

The contention here is that torturing of a person to extract information from him has been restored to by law enforcement agencies as a convenient, fast and direct method of investigation to bypass the expensive and arduous process of lengthy investigation.

We have accepted this mode of investigation as a way of life as long as the accused is a weak non-entity and a petty criminal. Now, as the new technologies like narco-analysis, brain-mapping, and polygraph tests are making their way into scientific investigations, both the criminals or non-criminals, all are compelled to loosen their tongue during interrogation.

Before the recent Supreme Court judgment it was becoming a fashion to extract the information Chemically without the subjects explicit consent.

Narco Test has acquired popularity off late. Lie Detection and Polygraph Test serial “Sach ka Samna” had put the Reality T.V. shows in India on fire. The Narco-Analysis test is conducted by injecting three grams of sodium pentothal dissolved in water. It is designed to push the suspect towards a hypnotic twilight state where they are questioned several times over to sort out the ambiguities.

It is interesting to know that confessions elicited out through these methods are not admissible as evidence in court.

We have seen the futility of these test made in Arushi Murder Case. According to some experts – persons who have been administered these chemicals can often repeat the interrogators’ words and cues or freely fantasize.

It is a general view that no matter how much more sophisticated the technology used now, it is still a coercive and manipulative investigation tactic, and one that has been rightly regulated by our courts.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Kasab verdict: A new dawn for Indian democracy

Kasab verdict: A new dawn for Indian democracy

Kasab verdict: A new dawn for Indian democracy

This judgment given in Kasab’s case is victory of those in uniform who sacrificed their lives to save the lives of thousands of their countrymen on that night of terror. Kasab has been pronounced guilty. It is a victory of Indian democracy.

KUDOS TO Justice M L Tahalyani for completing the proceeding of a complex and sensitive case in a relatively short span of time. Prosecutors also should be given due credit for the commendable job of building up a water-tight case against Ajmal Kassab, who became a willing instrument of mayhem, death and destruction at the hands of Satanic forces.

World has seen the real face of evil operating in the name of religion and freedom. The seven month long trial leaves no skeptic of international politics in doubt that rule of law prevails in India.

It is also a warning for any potential terrorist, individual or organisation, that criminals would not escape the long hands of law and justice would be ultimately prevail. The court has exhibited its utmost fair play in no uncertain terms as it has acquitted Ansari and Sahabuddin.

“The evidences against the accused suffer from many infirmities. It doesn’t inspire confidence in me that evidence ever saw the accused. It is doubtful whether he ever went to Nepal. His evidence is rejected,” the court said. From the hindsight, now, the police has to explain its theories of maps and sketches, proclaimed visits of accused to Nepal etc.

This judgment is victory of those in uniform who sacrificed their lives to save the lives of thousands of their countrymen on that night of terror.

Kasab has been pronounced guilty. It is a victory of Indian democracy. What next? In a transparent society like ours, the questions multiply themselves like the images in the hall of mirrors.

The next logical pertinent question is: What about those who are wagging a undeclared war against the hapless minorities in the name of religion for so long? They are still occupying lofty positions and roaming scot free.

Religious fanaticism and terrorism are concomitant. Bullets from AK-47 on streets or bombs that exploded in crowded markets or Dargahs kill the innocents. There is no thin line of demarcation between perpetrators of these crimes against humanity. Both should be brought to justice albeit as soon as possible. Justice delayed is justice denied.

Here is what director of CBI Ashwini Kumar said the other day: “The blast carried out at the Dargah of Khwaja Moinuddin Chisti Ajmeri at Ajmer, Mecca Masjid in Hyderabad and in Malegaon are linked.” I am not interested to know the name and religion of these butchers. Fanatics and killers have no religion. As a proud Indian I want to see them before the court of law; I want to see them punished. All peace loving Indians have to come together to maintain the sanity and sanctity of our motherland. We can’t afford to remain impassive or indifferent. As President Barrack Hussein Obama has once said:

“A struggle that demands we choose sides. Not between black and white. Not between rich and poor. No, it is a choice between dignity and servitude. Between fairness and injustice. Between commitment and indifference. A choice between right and wrong.”

Death to the ideologues and conspirators sitting and plotting against India under the aegis and auspices of Government of Pakistan. Long live Indian Democracy!

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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How to surmount my ego

I do always harbor a delusion that I’m a nice man. I feel everyone should have a good opinion if not an fulsome admiration for me. I’m not Mr Perfect but I’m not a bad entity either. If you aren’t necessarily bad, you are a good man. I love the people I come in contact, why can’t they be like me ? Why can’t they reciprocate in the similar vein. Why can’t I get along with every one ? Many people hate me, contradict me and ignore me. One penny question – Am I alone with this complex ? Did I ever ask myself : why the people don’t care for me ?

A wise man has said, “When people say they do not care what others think of them, for the most part they deceive themselves. Generally they mean only that they will do as they choose, in the confidence that no one will know their vagaries; and at the utmost only that they are willing to act contrary to the opinion of the majorities because they are supported by the approval of their neighbors. It’s not difficult to be unconventional in the eyes of the world when your unconventionality is but the convention of your set.” It would give me little relief if I accept this theory.

However, everyone is EGOISTS in this world. The levels may be at variance. Everyone wants to be superior to next person he or she meets. We may hide these feelings in the most sophisticated manner, style and language but we all are hypocrites. We all are the victim of a strange complex which you may term as superiority or inferiority complex. These complexes are invisibly intertwined. Superiority Complex is the acute form of Inferiority Complex.
We all need friends and we have two type of friends. A friend who tells point blank that I’m a loser. I may not like this friend. No one ever likes him anyway. And we have the other kind of friend who will always tell me that I’m a great guy. He lies but still he is the best friend ? It is socially acceptable to offer mild false praise. Its symbolic of mediocrity. We all want to be honest but we end up doing the opposite. Honesty is the best policy but the deliverance of this policy is also an art. Advice delivered in a caustic manner doesn‘t go far. We can’t see our shortcomings ourselves. That’s why it is necessary to surround ourselves with people who will tell us the truth about us – even when we don’t want to hear it. Still we let down the same best friends and they let down us at times.
Let us realize that human nature is prone to egoism. We do always want to receive. We feel ‘giving up‘ could be a virtue and ‘giving in’ is defeat. The law of nature is quite contrary to that. It is based upon altruism. The essential force which binds us is love. The whole balance of existence is based on giving in. The whole flora and fauna give in for us. The ecosystem of the universe revolves around giving in. As Paulo Coelho of “The Achemist’ has said – The whole universe conspires for us when we move forward. The separate objects which surround us work together just like organs within our body. Everything in nature functions that way except for the inner life of an individual that’s me.

I love to receive as much as possible to satisfy myself and I care two hoots about giving the least amount of effort to anyone. I always end up being at the expense of others. Our most outwardly kind and generous acts are done only with the intention of self-gratification. Is it our fault ? Aren’t we were built this way ? Hate, avarice and greed are integral part of our nature. How to mold these negative instincts into a positive energy ? Can’t we just turn around our egoistic nature in a way that allows us to rise above it. Religion and not the science has the solution for this dilemma. “Love our Neighbor as our self – Love others exactly as you love yourself! – Putting their interests before anything else – just like you do with your own self interest now.”

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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How could you kill someone you love ?

I believe a broken affair should not stink like a rotten fish. There is a good reason to be sad but life is too beautiful to remain melancholy long. If we love someone we have to learn to live with illusions also.

SOME ONE has said, “Love is wanting happiness and everything that is good for your loved one. Love is not wanting someone, it’s wanting what is best for them. I don’t care if he is with someone else, as long as he is happy. Knowing that he is happy is all I need. It’s about sacrifice.”

As one who believed that Love is God its very difficult to understand the unwarranted climax of this Love Situation: The 26-year-old son of a Delhi advocate, Love is God, reportedly committed suicide on Monday after allegedly stabbing his former friend Deepshikha Arora to death inside his car on Monday.

Her body was found in Varun’s car. The car was parked in a clearing near the Cross River Mall in East Delhi.

Police sources said her throat had been slit and there were deep stab wounds on her chest, chin and arms. The 25-year-old was left bleeding, the police said. From a note found near Deepshikha’s body, the police have surmised it might be a case of unrequited love. The note read: “You are not faithful to me. You don’t love me. You love somebody else.” The Mathura police said Varun had thrown himself on the railway tracks.

His father Deep Mehta accompanied Delhi officers to Mathura for identification.

“I’m not here to pass a moral judgment but to understand an ultimate dimension of love that is Marriage. I’m or I’ve an illusion that I’m an eternal cockeyed optimist;I always look for a rainbow after any sorrowful storm. What was there in his mind when Varun Mehta killed the fated unfortunate Deepshikha ?

What was there in his mind in those final fatal moments before Varun threw himself on the railway tracks ? Was it love or just an ephemeral infatuation ? After the girl jilted or he realized that she is not his baby, was it not possible for him to just cling to her memories, often with tears and laughter ? May be she was a good girl but she was, of course, she was not the best. Memories are more soothing and relaxing than marriage and the accompanied humdrum of life. Couldn’t he wait the situation to cool down ? Being a lawyer he must have known a lot of stormy love marriages that end in ugly divorces – within short time. Love and marriage are not the ‘be all’ and ‘end all’ of life.

Why there are so many divorces now a days ? These characters who bulldoze every thoughts of sanity aren’t the real lovers. As the old Indian song goes – “Phalsafa pyar ka tum kya Jano….” Let me emphasize here that if you fall in love, you fail in love. Isn’t strange ? The real lovers grow in love ! It takes time; it demands commitment; it demands sacrifice and it asks for dedication.
I fully agree that no two people and no two situations are perfect. Many lover become peas in a pod. The perfect people often end up in Real Ashrams, Monasteries and Darghas. When you expect nothing you will never be disappointed.

I believe a broken affair should not stink like a rotten fish. There is a good reason to be sad but life is too beautiful to remain melancholy long. If we love someone we have to learn to live with illusions also. Illusions are not always dressed-up lies. When you love someone you don’t hate them to death for mistakes they make. You try to understand them, help them and you don’t disown them.

You can’t fall in and out of love the way you catch a cold.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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ISLAMIC AND ZOROASTRIAN NAVROZ

S Kaleem Sibtain Naqvi

The Navroz is assumed as the day when the cosmos came in well designed action form of universe by the will of All benefeciant and All merciful Creator Allah from nothingness when Allah was alone-

”Na tha kochh toh Khuda tha,
Nahota kochh toh Khoda hota” [Mirza Ghalib]

See Sura-e Al-Araf [7;54]–”Bismillah hir rehman……….Inna rabba komol lahul lazi khalaqas samawat-e-wal arza fi sittati aiyamin sommastawa alil arsh.Yaghshil lailon nahara yatlobohu hasisaun washshamsa wal qamara wun nojoma mosakhkharatin bi amr-e-hi alal lahol khalqo wal amro tabarakallaho rabbil aalamin”
Your Lord is Allah, who created the heavens and the earth in six days and established Himself on the throne. He covers the day with the night and each pursuing the other urgently;and the sun and the moon and stars are subservient to His command.Both creation and command belong to Him. Bless be Allah,the Lord of all worlds.

In accordance with “ Kitabal-TahfimLi Awail Tanzim ” written by Abu Rayhan Bruini in 10th century AD “ The universe started it’s motion soon after it’s creation by the will of the God on 21st March, the first day of functional universe”. So in Persian calendar 21st March is considered as new year’s day called as Navroz. In this sense it should be the most ancient festival. So it had been celebrated in different ways in different eras and in different areas.

Astrologically Navroz is a day of great importance because it is the day when the length of night is quite equal to the length of the day and the sun rises above the equator of the Earth entering in the constellation of Aeries and such a celestial state is termed as VERNAL EQUINOX of sun when spring season starts. Different communities celebrate it in different forms that do not matter but what matters, is addition of unworthy rituals in the celebration of the festival.

The Navroz festival can be categorized in two forms–
1. Zoroastrian Navroz
It was started by the emperor of Persia, Zoroaster two centuries before Jesus Christ. It was also popular even in 648 BC to 330 BC in Achaemenid Era when exchange of gifts and blessings took place. During the period of Zoroaster the people celebrated it with worship of fire following the Zoroaster’s book Zendavista while Allah sent His apostles to preach that nothing was worthy to be worshiped except one Almighty, all powerful Lord of heavens and Earth- Allah, but more or less the same methodology was continued to celebrate Navroz in central and South Asia, Northern China, Bosnia, Serbia and Macedonia etc.. Legendry kings like Cyrus and Darius who ruled over Persian Empire celebrated the day of Vernal Equinox nearly six thousand years before Christ so we see that before the introduction of Islam all the theories and methodologies of this festival were non Islamic full of pomp and show ,worship of fire and most of the rituals were promoting the atheism.

2. Islamic Navroz-
with the introduction of Islam by the most adored prophet of Allah-Hz.Mohammad[s.w.] most of the absurdities were washed out or sidelined during 650A.D.from the celebrations of Navroz and the day had become the day of performing more prayers and glorification of Allah Who created the all the worlds .So this day of Vernal Equinox had been celebrated as Happy New Year Day in Persian calendar and during the period of four great Caliphs it remained as the day fully submitted to Almighty Allah,His prayers and for exchange of blessings among the peoples.During Abbasi Period , Navroz was declared as a Royal Holiday.
This day is assumed as the day when thousands of peoples died of plague were re-alive by Hz.Eesa[A.S.][Jesus Christ] when he sprinkled water droplets over them[Quran- Sura-e-Baqr-2,243]
The day of Navroz is also assumed as the day when Hisqeel ,the cousinof Pharoah repented his unworthiness and the God gave him miraculous spiritual power when he prepared a wooden box to save newly born Moosa from the tyranny of Pharoah and he was pioneer to accept Moosa as Allah’s Prophet in the court of Pharoah.
This day is also assumed as specially significant day in Muslims because Hz.Imam Ali ibne-Abitalib,cousin and son in law of Hz. Mohammad was declared as Khaliph on 21st.March 656 A.D. as Yom-e-Ghadeer.
But now again the same problem of unworthy practices is overcoming the holiness of the aim of the celebration of Navroz which may tarnish the dignity and decrease the gravity of Islamic Navroz.We have been sometimes somewhere forgetting the depth of our pious festivals. We forget that a rotten apple injures its companion . In the present scenario we cross the boundaries of values to see on the other side of the hedge and fall in the spoiling marsh of evils.
But see, it is the quality of godly men that they try their best to save the peoples from satanic evils which is an uphill task, yet they never loose their positive efforts to make an unspotted value oriented strong nation..They know that—-

Ye ishq nahin aasan bas itna samajh leejea,
Aik aag ka dariya ha aur doob ke jana ha.

So the NAVROZ SHOULD BE CELEBRATED WITH ENTHUSIASTIC SUBMISSION TO THE LORD OF THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTHS AND ALL IN BETWEEN THEM FROM OUR INNER CORE OF PIOUS HEARTS.So the peoples should perform the prayers and glorify the blessings of Allah to get the ability to serve the nation more and more better and we should pay lots of thanks to Allah who created the universe and the best of all creations ”Anima rationalis” to follow the righteous path of divine reality of Doomsday which is certain and everybody will face it.So if w e are true humane we should not deform our healthy rituals of not only Navroz but all of our festivals by adding nonsense formalities and activities for the sake of following the commandments of the Lord of the worlds.
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I’ve a problem or two with Shoaib and Sania

I've a problem or two with Shoaib and Sania

Shoaib and Sania

There is no room in it for swindlers, double crossers, tricksters, or traitors. Islam views cheating and deception as heinous sins, a source of shame to the one guilty of committing them, both in this world and the next.

THAT SANIA Mirza is hell bent to marry Shoaib Malik is not my problem. My feelings or feelings of my countrymen for Sania does not matter at this juncture. She is out of the picture as a girl, who would reap very soon what she is sowing now.

,As the adage goes – There are other ways to kill a cat than choking it with butter. If the Hyderabadis thought it fit to kill the last flicker of hope of friendship between India and Pakistan with this marriage they can stick to their opinion. My problem is Shoaib Malik.

Till yesterday, he was calling Ayesha as a girl he had never seen. He was saying that he was duped into believing that Ayesha was some third woman whose photographs he was shown. Since nikah with intention to cheat is not valid, Sania will be his first wife. Now when the cat is out of the bag he is admitting his marriage to Ayesha aka Maha. FIR filed by Siddiquis will be dropped now. Shoaib and Sania will now marry and would live happily hereafter.

Since both are Muslims and both should know that flirting with other women for a married man is tantamount to serious offence. Shoaib flirted with Sania when Ayesha was his wife. He was successful in trapping an innocent girl in marriage is another offence.

Let Sania Mirza, if not Shoaib Malik should know that Muslim society is based on purity of feeling, love, sincerity and fulfillment of promises to every member of society. Its members are endowed with piety, truthfulness and faithfulness. Cheating and deception are alien characters in contrast to the noble character of a true Muslim.

There is no room in it for swindlers, double crossers, tricksters, or traitors. Islam views cheating and deception as heinous sins, a source of shame to the one guilty of committing them, both in this world and the next. The Prophet, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, did not merely denounce such people by excluding them from the Muslim community in this world, he also announced that on the Day of Judgment every traitor would be raised carrying the flag of his betrayal.

A caller will cry out from the vast arena of judgment, pointing to him, drawing attention to him: “Every traitor will have a banner on the Day of Resurrection and it will be said: This is the betrayer of so-and-so.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari).

The shame of traitors – men and women – will be immense. Those who thought that their betrayal had been forgotten will find it right there, exposed for the whole world to see on banners raised high held by their own hands.

Their shame will increase even more when they meet with the prophet of mercy, the advocate of the sinners on that terrifying and horrible day. Their crime is of such enormity that it will deprive them of divine mercy and the prophet’s intercession. The Prophet of Islam said: “God said: I will oppose on the Day of Resurrection: a man who gave his word and then betrayed it.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari).

“There are four characteristics, whoever has all of them is a true hypocrite and whoever has one of them has one of the qualities of a hypocrite until he gives it up: when he is trusted, he betrays; when he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he disputes, he resorts to slander.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim).

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Water is thicker than blood in Bhopal

Water is thicker than blood in Bhopal

Water is thicker than blood in Bhopal

Once upon a time Bhopal was known for its aristocratic culture. It was a city of Tals (ponds), Talees (clapping) , Taams (royal cuisines), Tanpooras (musical instruments) and poets. Today, most of that has gone into the folklore.

THESE DAYS if one walks around the lanes and by-lanes of any Indian cosmopolitan city, one will find an unpleasant scene of empty bottles of liquor, glistening discarded bottle covers in the middle of the roads and on the side-walks – thanks to our neo-rich emerging culture, prosperity and powerful advertisement campaigns. Despite that a huge section of population even today waits in long queues for the Jal Board trucks to arrive for the supply of water.

Once upon a time Bhopal was known for its aristocratic culture. It was a city of Tals (ponds), Talees (clapping) , Taams (royal cuisines), Tanpooras (musical instruments) and poets. Today, most of that has gone into the folklore. Stories of fairy tales have been replaced by the stories of miseries of the victims of Union Carbide Gas tragedy. The gas tragedy was a result of sheer negligience. Unfortunately corruption is on a high and the corrupt officials never allowed the compensation money to reach the actual victims.

Last year Bhopal witnessed a triple murder in a dispute over water . Jeevan Malviya, 42, his wife and son were killed in a violent squabble that broke out when they tried to draw water from a leaky municipal water supply line.

Three days later, another murder took place in Bhopal in the Kanha Saiya area following a dispute between two groups over fetching water, forcing the administration to ensure the distribution of water in the presence of police. Immediately after the crisis an official spoke to the public saying that 100 home guards have been sent to take care of the problem. It barred people from gathering along the 122-km Nemawar water supply line after several cases of water pilferage were reported. Policemen even today guards the length of the pipeline.

But even before people could be convinced about the efforts of the government officials, a teenager was stabbed to death by her neighbour over drinking water dispute.

The incident took place at Bakshibagh area in the city when Poonam Yadav (18), standing outside her house was attacked by Hukum Gaur with a knife. Poonam was rushed to the hospital where she was declared dead. In the preliminary investigation, it was found that due to water crisis in the city, the victim’s family members had earlier requested Gaur’s family members to stop drawing water from their tap, police said.

While people here are being stabbed to death for such a basic necessity,others are enjoying the resource in abundance.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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