Shocking reality: Middle East women still living in medieval era

Today, the women of Saudi Arabia – one of the richest countries on earth have access to every information through magazines and websites. What they miss is an free air and open exchange of thoughts and ideas.

IF YOU believe that you can buy every thing with money, you are mistaken. We live in an enlightened world or so we are told. However, sometimes the power of wealth and glitter of religion also can’t take you far if the dominant society incarcerates you in a golden cage of ignorance. The women of Saudi Arabia are a living proof of this statement.

Today, the women of Saudi Arabia – one of the richest countries on earth have access to every material thing and information through magazines and websites. However, what they miss is an free air and open exchange of thoughts and ideas. If health experts are to be believed, Saudi women are still leading unhealthy lives as they are unaware of basic health principles.

According to the research done by several local and international health organisations, including the National First Care and Preventive Medicine, Saudi Arabia is ranked as one of the worst countries in terms of obesity, diabetes, blood pressure, osteoporosis and cancer rates.

Dr Munirah Balahmar, a consultant of community medicine and head of the health awareness unit at the First Care and Preventive Medicine Department made this observation, “The majority of Saudi women are careless about protecting their health. This carelessness is also affecting children. Most Saudi children become victims of their unhealthy mothers. Large numbers of Saudi children are suffering from obesity and diabetes at early age. Saudi women are ignoring basic health activities such as eating a balanced diet and exercise.”

To stamp the statement of Dr Munirah another prominent expert Dr Wafa Faqih, director general of the First National Association for Women’s Care in Jeddah and assistant professor for King Abdul Aziz University’s Faculty of Medicine, “Women have ignored advice on how to protect their health. Most Saudi women are suffering from osteoporosis, cancer and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). The absence of awareness on how to safeguard themselves have increased the risk of women contracting these diseases.

She claimed 30 per cent of women are risking death because of osteoporosis, while 90 per cent were ignoring advice on how to avoid sexual diseases.

And if it sounds strange to those, who believe that Saudi Arabia is an El Dorado, it is more shocking to learn that many Saudi women are suffering from STDs but they do not know how to avoid catching them. Some sexual diseases can lead to infertility.

According to Dr Faqih some Saudi women are also indulging in illegal drugs, herbs, and online medication. This trend is mostly visible in women, who want to lose weight, prevent hair loss, treat their skin, and generally look younger without consulting specialist physicians.

She called on the Ministry of Education to implement a new syllabus on health care for primary school.

Too much of anything suffocates including religion.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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THE RELIGION

(S.Kaleem Sibtain Naqvi)

The religion is that divine lights which engulfs all the darkness of minds and hearts if is adopted not superficially but followed by our inner souls with full of its gravity.

English poet Drydon says-

Errors, like straw, upon the surface flow

He that would search for pearls must dive below

Everything and everyone deserves respect because they are the product of Almighty God’s creation that is so infinitely complex that our minds can comprehend and not duplicate, and the religion is the divine code of mission of the creator for the people to decode by accepting and following the commanding authority of the creator which is merely not the methodological performance of the of the formalities to achieve the materialistic merits but in the divine grace of the Creator.

The religion is the state of equilibrium between our mental, physical and social interactions in the form of humanity. it is the connection between us, our inner souls and our creator. wen have no merits but it is his grace that we are in our existence.

There is a lone religion for the entire creation of the universe commanded by he creator whom we call by different synonyms as God, Parmatma, Khuda, Om or Allah. The creator constituted a mission or religion that can create the balance of emotions to search the foremost and ultimate truth, and the truth of life and death which is phenomenologically called as religion. The phenotype of the traits of religion is humanity.

So if our aim of life is one, our religion is also one. No matter if the ways of approaching the same target are different. Different routes for single destination keep away the problems of space to move for huge crowd of people. No matter if some roots are rough and tough and some are smooth, no mater if phonetics of expressing the feelings is different in different groups of people but the matter is the heartiest acception gravity of the connection between the creator and created which is universal religion of all the human beings and is called humanity. A hindi poet Vayom says-

“dharm toh aachran hai, nahin aavrun

Aachran ki kami reh gai hai aamrun

Aachran ki kami dur jo kar sake

is zamane ko woh aadmi chahiye

Hai andhera bahut roshini chahiye”

So infect the humanity is the universal religion given us as the mission of God which connects us with the God, Parmatma or Allah and all the superficial terms as Hinduism, Christianity’s, Mohammad’s, jews or Sikh are the only exponent of the single religion of humanity which has its spiritual ideology to fulfill the aim of life.

A rare gesture of humanity

Forgiveness is the virtue that is preached by almost every religion. Forgiving others releases us from anger and allows us to receive the healing we need. Forgiving others spares us from the consequences of living out of an unforgiving heart.

ALMOST EVERY religion preaches the virtue of ‘forgiveness’. In the world so overwhelmed with the darker clouds of avenge, revenge and reprisals, a silver lining was seen in the attitude of a mother.

Five months ago, in the Burmese neighborhood of Al Khalidiya district of Saudi Arabia, a little girl Kalthom (Indian pronunciation Kulsoom) was tortured and killed by her step mother. The heartless woman had brutally disfigured the face of Kulsoom. It was full of blood and it was difficult to recognise her in morgue. It was so abhorrent to know that the father stood back and watched when the heinous was perpetrated.

The mother of the victim had imbued the best spirit of Islam. Perhaps she might have never heard of Bin Ladin or Baitullah and this incident didn’t shake the faith of the real mother in humanity. As the religion says: “Just as it is important to believe in the mercy and forgiveness of Allah, it is also necessary to base human relations on forgiveness. We cannot expect Allah’s forgiveness unless we also forgive those who do wrong to us. ”She says she is willing to forgive her and her ex-husband if asked by a court. The woman was sentenced to death and the man to 15 years in jail. The stepmother is also having here own kids. The aggrieved mother feels that executing the stepmother would not bring her daughter back to life and she was also willing to pardon her. The mother said that she made the decision as she knew what it felt like to lose a child. She said, “She (the stepmother) is also a mother with children and I know that her kids need her. My daughter will not come back if she was executed or jailed.”

It was the best example of ‘milk of humanity’. God says that it is in our own best interest to forgive! He is not talking about what is in the best interest of the person who needs to be forgiven. We are the ones who God is trying to protect. We are the ones who receive the most benefit from forgiveness, not the other person. Forgiving others releases us from anger and allows us to receive the healing we need. The whole reason God has given us specific direction is because He does not want anything to stand between us and Him. God’s love for us is beyond our comprehension. Forgiving others spares us from the consequences of living out of an unforgiving heart.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Fiza: A strong, wise woman

We all make decisions throughout our life – some are automatic, some are well-thought-out and some are outright blunders. The last ones are based on inchoate thinking and emotions that could be the result of over-stress.

WE ALL make decisions throughout our life – some are automatic, some are well-thought-out and some are outright blunders. The last ones are based on inchoate thinking and emotions that could be the result of over-stress. One wrong decision can change the course of life forever. As one Urdu poet said:

Bus ek qadam utha tha ghalat rah-e-shouq men.
Manzil tamam umr mujhe dhoondti rahee.

Marriage is the biggest turning point in a person’s life. Partners are supposed to treat each other with respect and trust. They must support one another and agree on goals together. They must show equal commitment to the relationship and nurture it to the best of their abilities. Consider the story of Anuradha Bali who fell into the trap set by a wily married politician; the enchantress in her was trapped in an illusion, the lawyer floundered, wisdom failed and common sense became the first casualty. She failed to learn anything from her previous failed marriage. She allowed herself to be exploited and destroyed by the greedy impostor – the product of a clan of political-seasoned opportunists.

Anyone else would have easily turned into a dismal, broken spirit and a pulverised wreck after all she had undergone. She had made a formidable mistake. However in the aftermath of the traumatic relationship she learned to accept the situation and she attempted to correct the course as best as she could. She made every effort to salvage the flotsam of her floundered life and in the process lost almost everything.

What remained with her was her integrity of character and her faith. It is difficult for me to believe that it was her love and respect for Islam that compelled her to become a Muslim. From Sunil Dutt-Nargis to Dharmedra-Hema there is a never ending stream of couples who used the tenets of Islam for their dubious and ulterior motives and of course the case of Chandra Mohan-Anuradha Bali is the most recent.

However, it is to her credit that once she entered to the fold of Islam, she remained loyal and remained faithful to the new faith she had acquired. In an interview with Divya, A she said, “After converting to Islam and assuming my present name, I have adopted its tenets from the core of my heart and would remain Fiza till death.”

Religion is a very personal matter. It is the equation between the individual and God. Whatever faith we follow, most of us are religious people and it is our duty not to make a mockery of our faith. Chandra Mohan brought disgrace to both Hinduism and Islam. Fiza made some interesting comments under duress but it is worth reflecting on her inherited values: “He (the CM) has gone insane. He seems to be changing his religion as often as he changes his wives. All of the members of his family need psychiatric counselling so that they do not play with women’s lives.”

Chandra Mohan had finally gone back to his original Bishnoi fold. We don’t know what he would do if he were to encounter the next beautiful damsel to walk his way. Meanwhile, Fiza, out of the furnace of her life’s tribulations, is trying hard to reassemble the remaining shattered pieces of her life. She appears to be wise, serene, cool and still vibrant. She had not surrendered or accepted defeat.

Life goes on. She ended her interview with the following words:
“It’s not been a normal life and I have now left it to God to take care of things. I don’t even wish to find the logic of things in what He does to me. I trust Him and the logic of things will unfold in future if I can’t understand it now.” We all make mistakes – some repairable, some fatal. Let us not laugh at her folly. She is a wise and strong woman who fell prey to a man’s evil designs. She remains an intelligent and sharp lawyer – a beautiful personality indeed. She has the dignity to accept her mistakes. She can still make amends and go the glorious path of life. We wish you all the best in life Fiza.

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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Khwaja Ajmeri – a messenger of love and peace

Khwaja sahab

Khwaja sahab

While Wahabiyat closes all the doors and windows on intellectual thinking, Sufism encourages freedom of opinion and unity with God. For Sufis, discrimination on the basis of race, religion, colour or creed, is ungodly.

EVERY THURSDAY, thousands of Sufi shrines across the country come to life as rich and poor, men and women, old and young, scholars and the ignorant, Hindus and Muslims, Sikhs and Christians, transvestites and ganja-smoking dancers come together to speak out their hearts in tacit communication; to pray and party with hope and faith. They arrive with different identities but they leave with one message – love.

Today when a bearded, gun-toting, salwar kameez attired soldier with bombs and fierce hate in his eyes has become a mascot for Muslims, it is still possible to discover the places and people where coolness of mind and body prevails. In the past decade, especially since 9/11, the Islamic world has been witnessing the falling popularity of Wahhabbism (so-called radical Islam) and the powerful resurgence of Sufi culture. It is a blunt response to the literalism and ethical bankruptcy of the Wahabiyat followed by Taleban, Sipa-e-Sahaba and Lashkar like organisations.

While Wahabiyat closes all doors and windows on intellectual thinking, Sufism encourages freedom of opinion and unity with God. For Sufis, discrimination on the basis of race, religion, colour or creed is ungodly. Intellectual development and creativity in cultural spheres are the hallmark of the Sufi movement. Sufism (mystic consciousness) calls for peaceful co-existence of all faiths.

When the viceroy of India had visited the shrine of Khwaja Moin-ud-Din Chisti at Ajmer he saw the people coming there – Hindus and Muslims, Sikhs, believers and non-believers. After his visit he said: “India is ruled by two governments – the British government and the government of Khwaja Ajmeri, and the second one is the greater power because it rules people’s hearts.” Today, Ajmer is ready to welcome the devotees of Khwaja who walk down miles and miles to attend the 797th ‘Urs’ – the major Sufi festival that starts on June 26.

The Urs is a congregation for a Sufi saint’s death anniversary. It is not an occasion to mourn but to rejoice. In Sufi doctrine death or ‘fana’ becomes a source of ‘baqa’ or ‘eternity’.“Duniya ki taraf peeth kara, to khuda ki taraf munh hota hai (If you turn your back to the world you will face God),” was the message of Khwaja of Ajmer. The infinite generosity of the lodge (an abode for lovers of God) is the polar opposite of the world of everyday greed and corruption. Khwaja Ajmeri was the disciple of Khwaja Abu Abdel Chisti and came to India with the army of Shihab-ud-Din Ghauri in 1192 AD and made Ajmer his final worldly destination.As the story goes, when Hazrat Waris Ali Shah of Deva Sahrief came to Ajmer, he took off his shoes and did not put them on throughout his life.

Khwaja Ajmeri was himself a great devotee of Hazrat Imam Hussain who was martyred in Karbala (Iraq) 1400 years ago fighting against the tyrant Ummaiyad ruler Yezid. During his life, Khwaja was a symbol of love and amity between all religions and he inspires the same feeling even after his death.

 

Naim Naqvi

Naim Naqvi

Did his graduation in Science discipline from AMU in 1972-73. He was Secretary of University Ali Society in 1970 and M.M. Hall Literary Society in early 70 's and member of Tayyabji Literary Society. Did his Diploma in Bakery Administration from HTT College Oxford Street London in 1987. Worked with National Herald - Delhi, Blitz - Bombay as Trainee Journalist and in Production Department with 'Naya Sansar Pictures' of Khwaja Ahmed Abbas at Bombay in early 70's. Traveled for study and training purposes to Germany, U.K., Switzerland, France, Dubai, Oman, AbuDhabi, Bahrain and Philepines.

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